🌀 Narcissists Aren’t Just in Relationships
They’re at Work, at the Store, and Sometimes in Your Own Home
Most people think narcissists only show up in romantic relationships.
But what if I told you… they’re often closer than that?
They’re the boss who takes credit for your work—and blames you when things go wrong.
They’re the person in the checkout line berating the cashier.
They might even be a family member you’ve been trying to please your whole life.
💡 Narcissists can show up anywhere—not just in dramatic love stories, but in your daily routines.
And the most confusing part?
They don’t seem like villains at first.
🧠 What Narcissistic Behavior Looks Like
You may not have words for it, but you’ll know how it feels:
- They twist your words and make you doubt yourself
- They never take responsibility, only redirect blame
- They act like the victim—even when they’re the one causing harm
- They’re charming to strangers and cruel to the people closest to them
You walk away feeling confused, drained, or like you must’ve done something wrong.
That’s not an accident. That’s the effect.
👔 Narcissists at Work
At work, narcissists can be:
- The boss who builds you up in front of others, but tears you down in private
- The coworker who gossips, triangulates, or takes over projects to steal the spotlight
- The one who never listens, but always demands to be heard
You find yourself adjusting your tone, second-guessing your words, or staying silent just to keep the peace.
🛒 Narcissists in Public
We’ve all seen them:
- The customer yelling at a store clerk
- The person making a scene because the rules “shouldn’t apply to them”
- The one who demands “special treatment” while demeaning everyone around them
They thrive on drama, attention, and control—even if it means embarrassing someone else to get it.
🏠 Narcissists at Home
This one cuts deep.
Sometimes the narcissist is a parent, sibling, adult child, or long-time friend.
The lines get blurry because there’s love mixed in—and loyalty. But the behaviors still show up:
- They rewrite history to make themselves look better
- They use silence as punishment
- They explode over small things, then act like you’re overreacting
- They draw you into their chaos, then blame you for the mess
It’s exhausting. And for a long time, it may not even register as abuse—it just feels like life.
🚧 My Own Wake-Up Call
For me, narcissistic patterns started early—because they were all around me.
That meant I married into it, too. And one day, it escalated so far that I had to face it fully.
I was stalked for over five years by a man who—on the second time we met—told me he loved me and wanted to marry me.
I tried to please him, even paid for a holiday he ruined with disruptive behavior.
At the airport, we were pulled aside for additional screening. I was mortified.
He showed up uninvited at my property, argued with a contractor I’d hired, disappeared for months, and then returned like nothing had happened.
Eventually, I got help.
Because this kind of pattern doesn’t fix itself. And you don’t have to live in it forever.
✨ You Don’t Need to Diagnose Anyone
You just need to recognize how you feel around them.
- If your confidence erodes…
- If your world starts revolving around their moods…
- If you’re shrinking yourself to survive…
That’s enough to pay attention.
You’re not imagining it.
You’re not being too sensitive.
You’re remembering your worth.
And that’s where your healing begins.