How We Judge Others… And Excuse Ourselves
How We Judge Others…And Excuse Ourselves
It’s a familiar scene.
The weekend gathering.
The warm fire.
Laughter bubbling up as the day begins.
But if you stick around long enough, something always seems to shift.
The chairs rearrange.
One person pulls up their blanket and sinks lower into their seat.
Faces tighten.
Something was said.
Someone reacted.
And in that moment, a quiet story starts playing in everyone’s head.
We do this all the time, don’t we? Judge others and excuse ourselves?
We justify our own reactions:
- “I’m not a rude person… I was just tired.”
- “They pushed me too far—that’s why I snapped.”
But when someone else does the same thing?
We rarely give them the benefit of the doubt.
They aren’t just having a moment—they are rude.
Case closed.
Here’s the Shift:
When we judge others, and at the same time, excuse ourselves:
I want people to understand that I’m not always that way,
That I just had a moment and reacted…
Am I willing to believe the same could be true for them?
This one small shift in thinking can change the entire tone of a conversation.
Before the sparks start flying—whether from the fire or a heated exchange—pause and ask:
- “Is this really about me?”
- “Could this be just one rough moment for them?”
Because truthfully, we’re all just trying to manage our own stories.
And sometimes, the best way to calm the fire… is not to add more fuel.
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