Your Spirit Isn’t Wounded- And You’re Not to Blame

In my recovery journey from a toxic relationship, I keep running into the same sentence in books and online spaces:
“Your Spirit is deeply wounded, always with you… but wounded.”

In contrast, at first, I didn’t question that idea. But something about it didn’t sit right with me.
The more I read it, the more I felt like I wasn’t just trying to recover from what happened — I was being told I had somehow failed the sacred part of me, too.

And if you’ve ever been in a relationship where blame, together with, guilt and shame are already constant companions, this kind of spiritual messaging can feel like a quiet punch to the gut.

Let’s get something clear:

Your Spirit isn’t wounded.
Your connection to it may feel dimmed, buried, or even lost for a while — but Spirit itself? It’s untouched. It isn’t wounded.
It didn’t leave you. It didn’t get silenced. It didn’t pack up and hop a one-way bus “outta” here.
It is always with you— only your belief in it was shaken.

What *did* get wounded was your sense of safety. Your self-image. Hearing your inner guidance clearly, is impaired.
These things are real — and totally valid. But let’s not confuse the part of you that is confused… with the part of you that was never broken.

Again, no, your spirit isn’t wounded.

You Are Not to Blame

You don’t have to ‘earn’ your way back to Spirit.
You don’t need to wait for it to peek out and say hello again.
You just need to sit still long enough to remember — it never left.

That’s when my healing began. Not with a new book or a new method — but with the realization that my wholeness wasn’t missing.
It was just covered by layers of pain, survival, and noise.

And when I stopped trying to fix my Spirit, I started to feel it again.